Barb:my sincere condolences to you on the recent passing date of your baby. I know so much how that feels.

i am curious as to why you made a choice to never have human children.

i have to tell you that since mine have been grown, I have actually said these words "If I could have looked nto the future, and had seen the heartache involved, I would have never had kids."

i never thought I could ever say those words as I gave my all as a mother, it was the one thing in my life that I felt that I was very good at, excelled even. But some of the choices they have made as adults, honestly makes me now feel like a failure as a mother most of the times.

I have even said to some of my childless friends, "you don't know it, but YOU are the lucky one that you have not had to feel a lot of the things I have had to feel where kids and now grandkids are concerned.

lots of it was not of their own making, just things that happened to them, but as a mother it is very painful to watch. Some of it was their own making, and I think that hurts most.

DH and I have said more than once that we should have just always had dogs, and not kids. LOL