Detachment is a useful word in my way if understood as one pole of a magnet.

The opposite pole being passion.

I am attracted and repelled, by certain people, places, desires, and metaphysical influences.

As a Warrior I must learn to balance the head and the heart.

I am easily harmed by those I love.
They may abuse my friendship, time and again, and I must allow this. It is a form of suffering, and yet I call it "glad suffering"

And so I must learn ways to not only protect my self, but prevent any unjustified action that would bring dishonor.

One small example is when I believe a friend or even someone I barely know offers what I believe to be an insult.

I may choose to ask them : "Is it your intention to insult me?" If they respond that any insult is unintentional, my concern is resolved. And if they do not care, then I may treat them as Enemy.

In the Way of the Warrior it is stated this way:

In order to take a life - first one must understand the value of that life.
If one offers to take my life - they forfeit their own.

Because I wish to be open and receptive I am willing to risk the wound, and yet if I am attacked in any way I am obligated at some point to protect myself, that I may continue to be of service.

Hope my reply not too long but, your understanding of detachment encouraged my desire to share.


bestrong,
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