(((Saro))) you are such a gentle soul and desire to not cause harm to another. One of the best things about you. Yet there is way, sometimes, with not being firm with a person even if it hurts their feeling initially, is not an expression of love. Saying this as gently as I am able...for I know your heart is one of love toward others. But sometimes nice-nice does not serve them. Patraig could likely say more about that, and state it more eloquently than I...but I do know the truth of it. Sometimes, to serve, we may appear initially to be rude to another, or say such as might get their back up.

Any road you choose to go with this person...however that unfolds...you do not need to feel quilty or unloving to set firm boundaries with this person or to explain to them the reasons for that. Tis a kindness in the long haul.

Kas